In modern-day America, a Gentleman is a rare find. And ladies – it’s our fault. The feminist mindset has taken over us, even though we often don’t realize it. We have said “I can get it, thankyouverymuch” for so long that those who would be Gentlemen if we would let them are now saying “Alright then, get it yourself!” This post is for guys, but feel free to comment and back me up on this, girls! Here are some Gentlemanly things that we always appreciate. We love it when you…
1. Open doors for us.
Believe it or not, we appreciate this, whether it’s from a brother or a random man who happens to be there at the same time. This small act of courtesy does not go unnappreciated.
2. Pull chairs out for us. Yes, this may seem silly – after all, it isn’t as if we can’t get our own chairs – but it’s a nice, small attention that makes us feel like ladies.
3. Refrain from telling vulgar jokes and/or being crude in our presence. Believe it or not, we don’t appreciate that one joke from that one movie, and we also don’t view it as an accomplishment when you can burp the alphabet. Please, remember your manners.
4. Aren’t rough or violent during games. I like rough-housing as much as the next person, but even if it’s during a game of football girls don’t like to be slammed into or shoved around. Please treat us like ladies – even when we’re goofing off.
5. Give up your seats for us. If we walk into a room and all the seats are taken, it is greatly appreciated when you stand up and offer us your seat. This is definitely one of the ‘bigger’ gentlemanly moves, in my book.
6.Offer to help. This may seem like one of the more ‘well, duh’ things – but it doesn’t get done very often. When we’re tired, busy – or even if we feel fine, chances are we’d LOVE some help. There’s usually something to do and you will be received with a grateful “Yes, as a matter of fact…”
7. Say something nice. Not in a flirty manner, of course – but we go to a lot of trouble to look pretty, and it’s wonderful when somebody notices. A simple “Your hair looks cool” or “I like your outfit” can do wonders in brightening our day. And please, don’t make negative remarks about us – we’re already very hard on ourselves, especially appearance-wise.
8. Respect our personal space. Please don’t make us feel awkward by trying to give full-body hugs or anything like that – chances are, we have standards, and we feel really bad when we have to say something like “Actually, I’m uncomfortable with that.” Personally I’m a side-hug person, and having to ask a person to ‘back off’ would make me very uncomfortable.
9. Include us in your conversation. Yes, I understand you want to talk to the other guys present. But if there is one girl, and several guys, don’t start talking over her. Remember that she’s still there and probably feeling very left out.
10. Be Watchful! Look for things to say and do to show that you’re a true Gentlemen. Protect us. Respect us. Treat us like sisters in Christ, not like other guys or playthings. Treat us like ladies, and I can assure you that I, for one, will treat you like a Gentlemen.
To quote Raquel, the young lady who inspired this post, “Know that girls DO appreciate these acts of chivalry! There aren’t many TRUE men out there…or so we think. Prove us wrong.”
Ladies, beware – guys aren’t the only ones getting spoken to! The next post will be for YOU.