I’ve been having some thoughts on modesty lately, and it was emphasized when my Mom had me read two articles she liked on ladiesagainstfeminism.com (highly recommended site). But more exactly, I’ve been having thoughts on what comprises immodesty? And are there any gray areas in clothing?
I get a kick out of reading fashion magazines – (PEOPLE StyleWatch, InStyle) – for several reasons. Number one, often times it gives me ideas of things I could make for myself (honestly? Three hundred dollars for something you could make with scissors and a t-shirt?) It gives me fashion and hair ideas as well. But rarely do I come across an outfit that is completely modest. But the thing I really notice is how attention-getting most of the outfits are. Many of the bangles, dresses, and outlandish hairdos are labeled “Notice-me such-and-such!”
This seems to be the opposite of modesty. Let’s see what the Bible says about it –
1 Timothy 2:9,10 “ In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with braided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works.”
1 Peter 3:3 “Let your adorning be not that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, or wearing of gold, or putting on of apparel; but let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.”
Now, some women take these verses to mean two things: One, you should never wear your hair in braids. Two, that jewelry is definitely not allowed.
But they’re missing the main point of this verse. If Paul was saying that jewelry and braids are strictly n0-no, then why did he lump the ‘putting on of apparel’ in there as well? Are we supposed to run around in our alltogethers for the sake of modesty?
Certainly not! He is saying to be modest – and that modesty starts with the heart. We aren’t supposed to dress for the purpose of getting attention from other people – we want people to notice God, not us.
I’m not saying being fashionable is a crime – I myself highly enjoy fashion! But fashion for purposes of attention-getting and flaunting ourselves is not modesty. It shows a problem with the heart. Modesty is a complete heart-issue – if your heart is right, you’ll dress right.